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  My kid wants a B-day party

  by openminded in

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  but my wife is a hard core jw.

  should we just sneak away to chuck-e cheese or what?

  he is 5.

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  Pierced Angel

  Lay down the law, tell her that you're having the party and that she has to put up with it because you're her husband and you have a right to do what you believe is best for your kids too.
  I was secretly happy for my kids when my non-jw husband insisted on certain things like holidays (not that we did much anyhow since he was sort of lax about it).It was convenient for me because when he took the initiative I could blame it all on him while the kids had their fun too.

  She might go easy, you never know.

  Good luck,

  Anne
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  I'm crying now---pray for this family....please

  by LDH in

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  i just received a phone call from the mom of one of my daughter's friend's.. 7th grade little girl, just delightful.. we saw her dad tuesday night at 'back to school night.'.

  he killed himself yesterday.. lisa.

  edited to add, i just talked to the girl's mom again and she told me they went to the doctor together yesterday, i guess he's been having some chronic health problems for the last ten years.. the doctor pooh-poohed his concerns.

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  Oh, I feel terrible for you and the family. A very close cousin killed himself when we were both 21 and it was the most painful (besides my brother's death) thing to have to deal with. If only I could have seen it coming and done something. That was what we all were thinking every day since.

  That poor little girl of his. The suffering she's going through is so hard to think about. How thoughtful and selfless of you to volunteer to clean any mess up from it. Especially when you're pregnant like that. I wouldn't even have thought of it, you're a real friend, they're lucky to have you available like that.

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  Nov. 8 Awake - Wife Beaters-Sick

  by MrMoe in

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  i will let you all hang who ever the heck wrote this crap.

  november 8, 2001 awake page 9: some battered women may need to seek assistance from the authorities.

  at times, a point of crisis-such as intervention of the police-can cause an abusive man to see the seriousness of the action.. page 12: should the battered wife leave her husband?

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  My god, the one thing that stands out in my mind is how wonderful the women of this forum really are. There are strong, courageous women with brilliant minds, beautiful faces and loving hearts and to think of any one of you having to have endured abuse like that breaks my heart.
  There is simply no excuse for the Watchtower treating women the way they do. They think they've come so far, but they're still lacking soooo much when it comes to showing real love and compassion.

  You women are so strong and so helpful by sharing your stories. I applaud you.

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  Never Let An Ayatollah Baby-Sit.

  by Englishman in

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  yesterday, uk foreign secretary jack straw flew to iran.

  although the visit had been arranged for sometime, the us are doubtless keen to mbe able to at least have some input into the talks even if they have to use jack as a mouthpiece.. lets now take a look at some of what the most famous iranian of our times has had to say:.

  sayings of ayatollah khomeini: .

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  Pierced Angel

  EEEWWWWWWWWWW

  I feel my breakfast coming up...

  It's almost as bad as "seeing" the things on rotten.com

  Thanks for the insight Englishman, I think.

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  My JW Mothers' Words Of "Love"

  by Ranchette in

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  well, i just received a letter from my mom and i dont know how to describe my feelings at this time.

  i thought id share parts of it with you and see what yall think.

  i will delete names and add my own words in parenthesis to describe whom shes talking about.. after a few lines of small talk she says this..........i do want to tell you, since (you and your husband) have rejected the truth, i am so glad (your son) is not old enough to join or be drafted into the military.

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  Oh man, that sounds like something my mother would write.

  You are not doing wicked things deserving of destruction and you are not the one turning your back on your family. Don't let her guilt trip get you down. That's just her way of trying to "scare" you back to the troof.
  You should ask her how she'd feel if her grandchild died because of your refusing them a blood transfusion. Then, she'd probably be proud of their taking a stand for what they believe in, right?

  Try not to let it get to you,

  hugs,

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  Last Post

  by joelbear in

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  i love so many of you so very much.

  what wonderful people there are here and how i have rejoiced in our spirits joining.. i have, as i said, given up.

  i am disconnecting from this board and from a number of other things in my life.. i am staying connected to mitch.

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  Pierced Angel

  Joelbear,

  I'm going to miss your posts and thoughts too. I appreciate your spirit and positive energy and will visit your site to read more of your writing and to check out the nudie pix! ;-)

  Take care Joelbear!

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  My husband is smoking pot

  by jurs in

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  i know this is not witness related but i just caught my husband smoking pot.

  i am so upset !!!

  he is an alcoholic and has a terrible temper.

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  Pierced Angel

  Sorry Naeblis,

  Can you tell I'm an oldest child?

  This just brings back some bad memories for me. I don't mean to jump to assumptions.

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  My husband is smoking pot

  by jurs in

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  i know this is not witness related but i just caught my husband smoking pot.

  i am so upset !!!

  he is an alcoholic and has a terrible temper.

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  Pierced Angel

  Hmmm, the few times I've smoked pot I was thankfully not driving anywhere, but maybe I had stronger stuff than you've had Naeblis. I certainly wouldn't want to have to take care of a baby or drive with the kids somewhere under that influence. It's not just doing it in front of kids that's bad, it's not being fully aware of things because your minds in a self made fog and not being prepared to handle things clearheaded that would worry me. I'm just trying to show how it used to stress me out and why it isn't fair to the other person to be so irresponsible. Why should the spouse have to be the "designated parent". If one is smoking pot and "chillin" out often, that makes the other one have to shoulder more and will cause resentment.

  There is a time and place for relaxing, even with pot, but when it causes friction in the home, it's time to reevaluate and consider what's more important.
  I think what scared me at the time was that I really felt I was less important than the drug. Maybe that's how Jurs is feeling? I won't get into details, but it almost caused our breakup. He says he's thankful that he had the heart scare. He's a better person today and has accomplished so much more than he ever could have in the past. I've had too many exciting opportunities come up to ever stay with him if he hadn't changed. I'm so glad he's living life instead of just trying to avoid it.

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  My husband is smoking pot

  by jurs in

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  i know this is not witness related but i just caught my husband smoking pot.

  i am so upset !!!

  he is an alcoholic and has a terrible temper.

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  Pierced Angel

  For those that don't think it is that bad, would you consider leaving your newborn baby with a babysitter that you knew might smoke pot right after you leave for work or an appointment? Would you want your child's bus driver to have a joint before taking the kids to school? When you can't trust your own husband to be on top of things for your kids and give you time to work or go to the store without feeling wary, that creates tension and unneccessary worry for the other parent, even if he's a real nice guy.

  It's great if it just makes you unambitious and lazy and relaxed, great, good for you. But, when it makes you a paranoid, flippant asshole that others have to live with you can't tell me that it's harmless to a family.

  My friend's husband was speeding while they were driving home one night and he had a bag of weed in the car. The cops arrested him in front of his 4 year old daughter. She was very distressed about it. Nice. Too bad he had to be so careless about his "simple little harmless habit".

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West
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  My husband is smoking pot

  by jurs in

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  i know this is not witness related but i just caught my husband smoking pot.

  i am so upset !!!

  he is an alcoholic and has a terrible temper.

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  Pierced Angel

  He is robbing you and your children of the life you deserve. That shows he cares more about his simplistic desires than what the whole family needs to be happy, healty and strong. He might get better, but he probably won't change, you need to decide if it's worth it or not. You know, pot destroys some of the brain that causes people to be empathetic and that's not something that's helpful to a relationship. It makes you have to be the "grownup" , the "mother" and it's not fair at all. Is he responsible at other times and in other situations? Does he help you with the kids? You have to weigh all this carefully and decide if it's an overreaction or not.

  Of course, all the people who smoke pot regularly are going to support it, so don't let that fool you. If he was addicted to watching tv non-stop instead of being there for you, what's the difference? It's disconnecting from the family and from the spouse, pure and simple. From what I've read of your posts, you sound like too much of a caring, interesting person to have to live in that situation by choice.
  Alcoholism is one of the most selfish diseases (not to discredit the pain of the alcoholic) there is and everyone suffers. Let alone, it has to be hard for you to be around pot or alcohol, even moderately considering your past problems. I wouldn't stand for it at all. Kids know way more than you think and he obviously doesn't care that he's not being mature or responsible.
  Can you take a temporary vacation and get away? Can you move in with a friend till he decides if he's going to take you seriously?

  I wrote that rather quickly and emotionally because I've been in that situation and it's very hard to "talk" or work through things with someone who doesn't give a damn and just wants to float through life without any cares or goals in life. My husband almost died due to heart complications and the doctors told him they were brought on by drugs (including pot). HE stopped cold turkey (even though I had begged for a couple of years prior) and he has changed into a much more mature person over the years. It's too bad that nothing else seemed to be enough to make him quit. But, at least he's seeing how much more interesting life can be without added stimulants.

  I hope for the best for you,

  Anne

  "When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I've never tried before." Mae West